Most parents are amazing and leave their kids with nothing but happy memories, but when we asked the people of Reddit if their parents had ever said anything terrible to them, they responded with some real shockers! Here are some of the worst comments parents have made that haunt their kids to this day.
1. A Mom who makes it all about her
“October 12th, 2011. I was about to be taken to the hospital as a suicide risk. I was 15. I was crying on the couch while I waited for my step dad to get home so we could all go together when my mom collapses, screaming on to the stairs.
Her exact words were, “Am I the problem? Do you hate me? Does everyone hate me? I must make everyone’s lives so miserable if you want to act like this, maybe I should just kill myself instead because obviously I’m the problem! Would that make you feel better?”
I’m 21 and it still messed with my head all the time.” u/birdtheliger
2. Nanna’s way too honest!
“When I was about 12 years old I was swimming in the pool and I was chilling in the floaty and my Nanna yells loudly “WHAT IS THAT?” and I’m like “what?” she yells “THAT!” and I’m freaking out thinking a spider or something my family are all looking over and than she points to my stomach and goes “THOSE ROLLS! YOU’VE GOTTEN REALLY BIG!” my brother starts cracking up and I just remember thinking ouch that really hurts and I’ve felt SELF-conscious ever since. I love my Nanna and I’m sure she didn’t mean to hurt me but it did.” u/tinkerbell8710
3. Does anyone else want to pinch this Mom?
“My mom used to say “If you can pinch an inch” in passing sometimes. She’s tall, and when she was young, she was very thin. I’m short and stocky because of my dad’s genes (he’s a 5’2″ former wrestler). Guess who’s going on 5 years battling a pretty all-consuming (no pun intended) eating disorder? ME!” u/francescafresca
4. Motherly love is not a thing here
“When I was a young teen (14?) I noticed that my mom never told me she loved me. I started playing this game where I’d call her from wherever I was, like at a friend’s after school, and at the end of the conversation I’d say I loved her to try to “trick” her into saying it back. She’d have none of it and hang up.
When I eventually asked her why she never told me she loved me, she said, “I just can’t.” I stopped trying and it was a real moment of clarity in our relationship for me.
As an adult I finally cut her out of my life and that’s been that.” u/Cityofooo
5. This is just an awful thing to say
“When I was 14, my dad invited me over to spend a month with him and his other family in London. My mom didn’t want me to go and when she realized she didn’t really have a say, she told me I could go but that she hoped I died while I was over there. Twenty years later, I still can’t fathom how or why that phrase would ever come out of anyone’s mouth, let alone from a mother directed at her daughter.” u/Cannotthink123
6. Self defence isn’t a thing to these parents
“I was punished for defending myself from physical assault in school. They told me that I was supposed to “turn the other cheek” and just suffer the assault.
It instantly taught me that my parents wouldn’t protect me if needed.
I never took their advice and learned that overwhelming force always gets the message across effectively if someone is bullying or victimizing someone else.
In the balance, it was likely a good early eye opener that only I control my own destiny.” u/FrequentVoyeur
7. Father of the year, right here!
“When I was 11 years old, I lived in a pretty small house. The easiest way to get from my bedroom to the kitchen was to go through the pantry. I was simply walking through to get to the fridge one night to get a glass of iced tea.
This particular night, my dad happened to be pretty drunk and watched me come out of the pantry. Within earshot of the rest of my family (due to the aforementioned size of the house), he yelled at me, “I knew you’ve been sneaking food! No wonder you’re so fat!”” u/CosmicPegasus
8. Better than nothing, I guess?
“One that I still think about is my grandma (young grandma in her mid to late 40s at the time) talking to her four female grandchildren about if she could design her younger self with certain parts of us,
“I’d have the body of X, the face of Z, the hair and lips of Y, and I’d have your hands [my name].”
Like, cool, only my hands have any worth.” u/SpookyKins
9. A mother in serious denial
“Being told I don’t have a learning disorder, I’m just lazy. I am dyslexic, it effects my spelling, anything to do with numbers, my ability to see angles, and I am practically face blind. I also have ADD but because I was wild like her friends kid who had ADHD I didn’t have that either.
My mom thought I would use my disorder as a crutch so she just screamed at me that I was stupid and lazy instead.
She has since denied ever knowing that I was in special-ed. According to her she knew I had to go to the resource room because I didn’t do my projects right, and I was supposed to have extra homework, (but she never did the homework work me because it’s not like I ever did homework anyway.) but she had no idea that any of it was because I was in special needs classes.
She would take any good marks I had and use them as proof that I was lazy “you got a B in social studies… Where is your B in math? You just need to apply yourself to everything.”… Or “85% I thought you said you were good at this… Where is the other 15%?”
Then when I was diagnosed as bi-polar she decided that I wasn’t bi-polar, I just “really feel my feelings” and ours not a disorder “because I’ve always been like that”… That is pretty much the definition of bi-polar disorder.” u/Amelora
10. I think this Mom’s real name might be Ursula, she sounds like a sea witch!
“I used to love singing. One day I was singing near my mom and she said. “Sing for real, no really. Sing for real.” She thought I was just making noise but I really was trying to sing.
Ever since that day I can’t sing out loud even when I’m alone. I get too embarrassed. The ironic thing is she’s always singing in public and she’s just loud and tone deaf. Maybe that’s what I sounded like to her.” u/UpsetMuffins
11. A Dad who just doesn’t care
“When I was nine years old, my mom was oversea, so I lived only with my dad for a year. That was also the first year that my dad picked me from school. He was always late but one day me and my teacher waited for my dad for more than 2 hours and his answer to my teacher scolding was: “So what?”
It may feel like nothing, but it made think a lot back then when I was just kid. Personally I do not believe in the strength or special relations between people in a family. We are just people who live together.” u/hfh29
12. A dad who loves his bike more than his own child
“When I was young, like 10, I was messing around with my dad’s bicycle, which was older than me and had 2 flat tires (generally not in the best condition). Just trying to ride it, even though it was too big. He found me, scolded me, and told me “This bicycle is worth more than your life.”” u/SlightDementia
13. A huge confidence knock
“Not believing in me, making me feel flighty, despite graduating 4th in my class. My mom would always call me names, and put me down if I wanted to try anything.
Even driving! I finally got my beginners license this past Friday. I’m 35 and still terrified because apparently I shouldn’t be trusted behind the wheel.” u/gerrijo
14. Being nice gets you nowhere with this dad
“When I was a kid (probably 10 – 11 years old) I was watching cartoons with my dad. When a commercial break happened, I went downstairs, microwaved and cut some sausages and got some crackers as a snack for both of us. When I sat and offered the snacks he said “Couldn’t you put some mustard or something else in there you imbecile?” After that I just went to my room to cry and after 2 decades it still hurts, more so because I was just being nice and that came out of nowhere.” u/JerryAwesome
15. This mom is the real loser
“My mother says a lot of very mean things in the heat of the moment. But a few years ago I was in a really bad place career-wise, unemployed and not sure what my next step would be.
We then had a disagreement that stemmed from her wanting to tell me what to do with my life, despite having never lived in the country I lived in at the time and just not knowing what the reality of my life was. In the midst of the argument and the heat of the moment she shouted “Everyone else has moved on. You are the only one who is stagnating!” because I wanted to talk about something she did in the past that I wasn’t getting over without addressing. By everyone else she meant my siblings, and what I was talking about was a lot of physical and emotional abuse. I have never forgotten that. Especially since I had just started opening up to her about my frustrations with not being able to find a job in my field.
She will also never get another chance to know me as intimately as she did back then.” u/VenusBoticelli
16. Finding out what you’re really worth
“I was an illegitimate child and adopted by my birth mother’s sister, who died a few years later. We were raised by my maternal grandmother, who, I swear, every day of my life growing up, told me “You’re no good. You’re never going to amount to anything.” Her favorite name for me was “You little snot.” It took me years and years, including four years with a very good therapist, to finally find some self-worth. I knew I was very intelligent and talented, but didn’t know how to express it. It took me years, and the extreme patience of a devoted lover, to make me realize I really was worth loving, and even more important, taught me HOW to love. Over time, I became one of the top four in the USA in my profession and one day I realized, like a bolt from the blue, “That old lady was completely evil and couldn’t have been more wrong!!” It was a true epiphany and I felt like this huge and dark iron cave I had been living in just suddenly disappeared. I was 40 years old when that happened.” u/CuriousTighe
17. Being told you’re not a person
“That my thoughts and opinions don’t mean anything to anyone because I’m not a person, courtesy of my garbage father. My mother also reinforced this idea, though more with her actions as she didn’t verbalize it quite as concisely as my father. No, he would regularly say “you’re not a person” verbatim. I still struggle with some serious self-hatred to this day and feeling like I have no identity — like everyone else matters far more than me and I’m just an NPC in the background.” u/LimitedTimeOtter
18. Choosing the abuser over your own child
“When I had finally become scared enough of the escalation in what was happening to me, and where it would lead, I told my mother the things my stepfather was doing to me.
She asked me why I was trying to ruin her marriage.
I don’t think that will ever stop messing with me, there’s just not enough therapy out there to get over a mother choosing a pedophile over their own flesh and blood child.
Society just preaches that narrative, “a mother’s love” over and over from the earliest of childhood movies.
And then you realize it’s all a lie.” u/heinleinfan
19. This father was a horrible, bitter man
“Two main things:
– Said my mother was the ugliest person he knew – I’m basically a younger dark blond haired version of her. (Late teens)
– (About 13/14) That he didn’t believe I could be loved for me, that every man would either be out for sex or money and would eventually cheat. 23 now and in a relationship with a really good guy and the entire conversation I had with my dad that morning still messes with me.
And more but I’ve already given two and that’s one too many.” u/xStardancer
20. Narcissism at its worst.
“That I killed my grandmother. Which is literally impossible – she died from a brain tumor. My mother is a narcissist and got mad at me when I was 15 that I would hang out with the sister she didn’t want to talk to anymore. The next day I got attacked while she was drunk and she screamed it at me over and over again. You killed her, you killed her.
All this because when she was losing her memory due to the tumor, I was the only person she remembered – not my mom. No one liked my mom because she was an abusive, alcoholic person, and my grandmother raised me while mother was drunk. It still messes me up since she tried to hurt me and make herself feel better by saying I killed the person I loved most in the world.” u/polskas
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